The time period “normal marital hatred,” coined by the writer Terrence Real, is an over-the-top solution to describe these vexing, rage-filled, you’re-driving-me-crazy moments each relationship experiences. After the story appeared, many individuals on social media disavowed ever “hating” their partner. But privately, by e-mail, DM, textual content and telephone name, I heard from quite a few individuals who stated, “I totally get it.”

Real’s recommendation is to view your relationship as an ecosystem that you simply share with another person, and it’s in everyone’s greatest curiosity to maintain it in stability by taking good care of one another. — Tara Parker-Pope, Well+Being editor